Myth #8 - Guys are very picky about a girl's appearance

(An ongoing series "Ten Common Myths Girls Believe about Courtship")

This myth is very incorrect. 

Take a straight guy to a crowded beach or mall and, within an hour, he will spot dozens of girls that he would find "doable".  Girls, on the other hand, are the ones who would find every imaginable flaw about any guy's appearance.  "Oh, he's too [tall, fat, short, bald, etc.]". 

The truth is, guys are extremely casual about a girl's appearance.  There's a reason for this, and discussing it will give me a chance to discuss another facet of courtship theory. 

Guys are more casual about a girl's appearance because "spreading his seeds" is a biological strategy.  As long as she meets his minimum physical criteria, he's programmed to want sex with as many of them as possible to maximize the chances of passing on his genetics.  That's why guys have few hang-ups paying for sex, going to strip clubs and maintaining a massive porn stash (whereas, almost no women would think of doing these things). 

Women, on the other hand, have a different biological strategy.  She cannot "spread her seeds" because, once impregnated, she is out of commission for nine months.  Furthermore, she is only fertile for about twenty years.  As such, her biological strategy is not to have voluminous sex but to find "the one" who will provide for her.  This is why girls are far pickier about guys.  She cannot afford to sleep around and get pregnant and have guys abandon her.  This is also why girls are far more offended than guys about infidelity and "players". 

What does this mean for you?  It means you must first meet his physical requirements.  We've already talked about that.  Unfortunately, because many girls will, you will have to compete within this set.  The good news is, once you're in the set, you don't need to be the most beautiful in the set.  You just need to respond to the four questions from Myth #2 better than your competitors.  I assure you your dad didn't choose your mom because she was a physical specimen of absolute feminine perfection.  He will choose someone less prettier if she demonstrates better social/maternal skills and isn't a constant pain-in-the-ass.