This is going to be a long entry. But read it carefully for it contains ABSOLUTE FACT about attraction that girls rarely hear (or want to hear). It is going to be brutally honest. Many girls think guys prefer the "modern women". You know, she's educated, independent and a man's equal. This is a myth, and a very bad one.
Look at personal ads. Less than 1% of guys say they want women with high income. Less than 10% say they want “highly educated” women. Yet, if you read ads written by women, a majority will seek one of these two qualities (often both).
Clearly, neither gender really wants equality. "Equality" is just a happy-feel-good term that has no basis in reality. The truth is, guys generally want a girl who's his inferior and a girl generally wants a guy who's her superior.
This social arrangement is not hard to understand if you dissect the science behind attraction and human evolution.
Love exists for two things: survival and replication. That's it. There's no "magic" to it. To be specific, guys want girls for their reproduction value. That's why he's so concerned about a girl's youth and beauty. These are reproductive qualities. Girls want guys for their survival value. That's why girls want popular and wealthy guys of high status. These are survival qualities.
Some of you are thinking why such primitive ideas are relevant in modern society. That's because the human brain is designed for living in primitive hunter-gather societies. It is only in the last 200 years that most people live in highly organized cities. 200 years is not enough time for the physics of the human brains to change. As such, core human emotions and desires are functioning as if it is 2000 BC.
If you go to a formal gathering such as a wedding or the prom, you'll see this "primitive" dynamic in action. Guys are dressed in fancy suits. Suits imply status. This reveals his survival value. Girls are dressed in flirty dresses where you can see her boobs. This reveals her reproductive value. Even on most real dates, you'll see guys who are well-dressed while girls wear short miniskirts. Duh.
What does this mean for you? Of course, it means you must improve your appearance. We talked about this already.
It also means you cannot aim to be a man's "equal". He wants submissiveness because submission is a reproductive value. She submits to him and tends to his domestic needs (such as child rearing, raising the family, cooking, etc.). I know some of you who harbor feminist-leanings don't want to hear this. But this is a social fact and no amount of wishful thinking will trump evolutionary forces.
As such, you should not try to "outsmart" him or be more popular. If you are, fine. But stressing it will scientifically hurt your chances in courtship. Instead, you must appeal to his need for submission. You should see him as a leader and a protector. Ask him for help on homework. Or call him to tell him you're scared about something. It will trigger his instinctual need for submission and make attraction more likely.
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