Myth #1 - Love is blind

(An ongoing series "Ten Common Myths Girls Believe about Courtship")

Lots of girls think love is "blind" or "random".  And why not?  They would see a mismatched couple where one person is wayyyy more attractive than the other.  Love must be blind.

NOT.

The truth is, love is HIGHLY predictable.  Love is predictable because there is a natural order to courtship.  To make a long story short, people of near-equal value will end up together.  High-value guys will wind up with high-value girls, low-value guys will end up with low-value girls.  You won't see a "hot" guy with a cool clubbing lifestyle paired with an unattractive girl.  You won't see a "hot" model girl paired with a high school dropout frying chickens at KFC.  If love is "blind" or "random", you would commonly see these types of couples.

The reason you may see a "mismatched" couple is, a guy's value is harder to see.  A girl's social value is tied to her beauty, age and sexuality.  That's easy to see.  But a guy's social value is tied to his status, popularity and social skills.  That's much harder to see.  You might think "why is that hot babe with that short ugly guy".  Well, maybe that short ugly guy is a drummer in a band, drives a Mercedes and has an exciting social life (which makes him of high social value).

There is a simple reason why people of equal value end up with each other.  It's the social marketplace at work.  If there is a mis-match, the higher value person will feel shortchanged and his/her eyes will wander.  This causes the relationship to be unstable.  The lower value person will feel insecure, cling and do psycho things.  This also causes the relationship to be unstable.  These folks will continue to fail in relationships until they're matched with someone of near-equal value.

Mathmatically, you can represent this dynamic with the following equation:

I = abs(M-F) or I = |M-F|

Whereas:

I = instability
M = value of the guy
F = value of the girl

Hence, the greater the difference in social value, the greater the instability.

What does this mean to you?  That means, if you want a high-value guy, you need to raise your value.  This series will teach you how (don't expect miracles though).  Don't think you can cheat the social marketplace and end up with a "hot" guy when you're not equally hot.  That could happen, but is very unlikely.  The social marketplace tends to ensure you get what you deserve, not what you want.