Three more quickie "mistakes"

(An ongoing series on AF: "Twelve common things guys do to screw up with girls")

If I were to expand this series to 15 “mistakes”, here would be three more common courtship mistakes...

Mistake #13 - Blabbing too much information

Many guys try building rapport by telling girls all about themselves, particularly his recent social activities and past relationships.  This is a bad idea. 

Instead, you need to maintain a bit of mystery.  Don't volunteer excess information.  If you avoid answering, she'll imagine all sort of crazy stuff about you.  For example, if she asks what you did last weekend and you say "I'm not sure I should say", she'll think your weekend resembled the movie The Hangover.  That's exactly what you want her to think.  The same about your past relationships.  Once she obsesses what you're not telling, it will make it likelier for her to develop interest for you.  Not to mention, her persistent attempts to pry can be taken as a strong IOI. 

Let's be honest.  Most of us live pretty drab lives.  So don't confirm it by expressing it.  Also don't update all your happenings on Facebook. 

DLV: Telling everything about yourself
DHV: Being mysterious


Mistake #14 - Expressing low standards

Don't be afraid to sound exclusive.  No girl wants an easy guy who falls in love easily with anybody.  If you have high standards, she'll assume you have options.  If she thinks you have options, she'll assume you have lots of girls surrounding you (which is what you want her to think). 

When she asks what you're looking for in a girlfriend, give detailed standards.  Just make sure she's not excluded.  For example, if she's Korean, don't say you only go for Chinese.  Don't be afraid to talk about appearances either, as long as you're not obsessed with sexual body parts. 

Also, talk about ex-girlfriends and girls you've dated and why they didn't make the cut.  Make it sound like you've rejected girls.  To avoid sounding conceited, also mention these girls' good traits and how it was a tough decision to dump them. 

DLV: Desperate for any girlfriend
DHV: Having standards


Mistake #15 - Not being "macho"

Many guys try to adapt a particular girl's characteristics in a conscious or subconscious effort to be similar (a "good couple").  If she cries in movies, you cry.  If ghost stories frighten her, you also get frightened.  If she worries about not finding a job, you also worry. 

This is a bad idea because most of the time, you assume feminine traits that makes you look totally beta. 

Women are emotionally fragile and inherently seek men to be her leader and protector.  You cannot be girlie or some chickenshit.  Don't show excess worrying or trepidation.  For example, if suddenly there's thunder, she will likely get scared or freaked-out.  You cannot.  When she's fragile, you need to show bravado...the guy who tells her "everything will be OK" or "there's nothing to be worried about" and that everything is under control. 

DLV: Being feminine
DHV: Showing bravado