To be sure, it's often frustrating dealing with girls. She can get moody, suddenly shows interest and then disinterest (or vice versa), disrespects you, flakes on you, steps all over you, etc.
There are many reasons why girls might do this...
First, girls have massive egos and embedded with an Anti-Slut Defense (ASD). If she feels you've rejected her, her ego will kick in and she will get fiesty and seek revenge. If she feels she's been "too easy" fawning all over you like an idiot, her ASD will activate and she'll withdraw.
Second, it can be a shit test. Shit tests are obstacles girls erect (perhaps subconsciously) to test how much you like her. It's common amongst low self-esteem and less attractive girls.
Third, many Asian girls (particularly brainy ones) have retarded social skills because of courtship inexperience.
Lastly, you need to examine your own behavior and not pin it all on the girl. Have you engaged in DLV behavior that would repel a girl? Keep in mind that girls don't primarily based their attraction on a guy's physical appearance. She bases it mostly on whether you demonstrate social leadership. That perception can change quickly based on your behavior or inaction.
When encountering negative female behavior, many guys have reacted by...
- Telling the girl off
- Giving a cold shoulder or silent treatment
- Having that "pissed off" look on your face
- Talking trash behind her back
- Debating her to prove she's wrong
- Being petty and "getting even"
- Deleting her off your Facebook
- Confessing
- Crying
The most important thing for you learn here is, NEVER react to a girl's bad behavior. Every behavior I've listed is a courtship mistake.
High value males don't lose their cool. He retains control, does not react and laughs off, brushes off or ignores female nonsense. This is how you win respect and become her superior (and become attractive to her). If you react, a girl will feel control over you. She'd be the superior and you'd be her bitch. Not the best way to demonstrate social leadership.
I know it's oftentimes difficult not to react. But you need your intellect to triumph over your emotions. Step back and think things over. Nothing good comes from losing your cool except satisfying your ego for five minutes. Not only will she become less attracted to you, if she tells her peers, they will lose respect for you too. This is how a man's social value spirals downward.
Yes, you need to react somewhat to bad behavior. But it must be subtle and she must not think you're reacting. Instead, she must believe you've genuinely lost interest. You can achieve this effect by becoming 20% less friendly. I assure you most girls are sensitive enough to notice it.
In any close friendship, serious arguments will happen. If you fight it out with her and relations take a hit, you need to be the one to approach her again. Never apologize if you didn't do anything wrong though. Just let bygones be bygones and be big enough to approach first.
DLV: Losing your cool
DHV: Being emotionally in control at all times
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