Approach anxiety and the cold approach

The cold approach.  I don't fucking believe how hard it is. 

I am one of the least shy person you'll ever meet.  I'm the guy at a wedding shamelessly making a fool of himself on the karaoke machine.  At parties and typical social venues, I can seamlessly mingle with strangers (even very attractive girls).  You know all that courtship stuff I've written about over the past three years?  I've done it all.  I may not be a grandmaster, but I'm certainly much better than average. 

So it shouldn't make sense why cold approaching someone during Day Game would be so difficult.  As Project Mayhem kicks off, I realized just how different it is from a typical social gathering.  It's a whole new ball game. 

Approach anxiety is very real.  It makes absolutely no sense why guys would be so terrified of making random comments to a stranger.  It's just a passing comment, one that billions of people make every day.  The absolutely worse that can happen is, she responds indifferently and walks away. 

But the anxiety is there, like Mystery said, because of evolutionary programming.  The male brain is telling guys "don't do it, there's danger!"

I've noticed one reason for approach anxiety is psyching yourself out.  When you prepare to go "sarging" (the PUA slang for doing pickups), anxiety builds because you inadvertently make it a big deal.  The guy would take a shower, get dressed, fix his hair, drive to wherever, etc.  All that has a psyching affect, making the event more significant than it really is. 

I've also noticed one symptom of approach anxiety is finding excuses.  She's busy.  Not my type.  It's not the right time.  You will rationalize to yourself why you shouldn't do it. 

I know I'm new at this, but the feeling of choosing someone and approaching her in Day Game seems really weird.  Feels so predatory and loserish.  It shouldn't be weird because we talk to strangers all the time.  But it's different when you force it with ulterior motives.  The other party seems to have that "stranger danger" look in her eyes, as if saying "why the fuck you talkin' to me. " I feel creeped out myself. 

Needless to say, my first approaches didn't go too well.  I know it's only the first day, but I actually thought of quitting.  Maybe go back to regular courtship activities, those I'm already good at.  Relying on those activities will hinder the number of people I'll meet, but at least it feels safe and comfy gaming girls in normal social venues.

But fuck it, I am not going to quit.  I'm going to keep at it, through brute trial and error, until I'm the last person on Earth to be doing this.