The second week of Project Mayhem is coming to a close. Although I'm still a PUA infant, I still want to share some early observations...I work in a building with about 1,500 employees, 85% of them I'd never interact with, and most I'd never even seen.
These days, every time I pass a strange face in the hallway, I would often say "hello" first. It has nothing to do with being "more alpha". Simply, it feels like the good, right and normal thing to do. The in-field Project exercises are helping to slowly recondition my behavior for the better.
In the past, I would think (like most people) "well, if so-and-so doesn't say hi to me first, I won't say hi to her". It's like waging a silent, egotistical battle where you don't say “hi” first for fear of being branded a social inferior.
Ironically, by saying "hi" first, I feel like the superior instead because I've risen above the fray of this irrational, stupid pettiness.
Lately, I've come to realize that, even with superb pick up skills, I'd probably still meet that special someone through conventional means (party, at work, friend of friend, etc).
That's not to say what Mystery teaches isn't valuable. I think his teachings are highly useful and relevant in normal social situations. Successfully approaching strangers in strange places is one the hardest social feats to perform. We're evolutionally hardwired and socially conditioned against talking to strangers.
But once you master the cold approach, or at least gain some proficiency, normal social situations would become a breeze. Just as, once you can do Calculus, Algebra becomes laughably easy. If I can talk to some random person at the supermarket, I can surely talk to someone at a closed, invited social gathering like a birthday party.
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