The science and history of attraction - Part 1

Since I've just started this blog, I should state as briefly as possible the general philosophy behind my writings on AsianFanatics.net.

Why do so many guys fail in courtship?  Most of the time, it's not because they aren't nice enough to their targets of affection, but because they're too nice.  They fail to understand exactly how attraction works on a scientific level.  Modern culture and media has brainwashed men into thinking that it's all about chasing the girl with flowers, poetry, candlelight and endless attention. 

The truth is, most of that romantic crap is baloney and a fabrication of modern society. 

The physiology of the human brain has not changed in the last 50,000 years.  What our cave-dwelling ancestors desired is what we desire today.  Romance back then didn't involve flowers and poetry.  Rather, it was more simple, direct and logical.  Women wanted "alpha males", men who are tribal leaders, warriors and wealthy merchants.  That's a rational choice since human instincts are, first and foremost, concerned with survival and reproduction.  She has also learned that Nice Guys aren't alpha males.  You cannot become socially powerful if you're a spineless overly-accomodating chickenshit.  Mating with alpha males, and not Nice Guys, is thus her best survival strategy.  This primal drive has helped humans survive, thrive and multiply throughout the ages and won't be going away anytime soon. 

Fast forward to today.  In our modern society, we've embraced increasing gender equality.  Women now are more aggressive and assertive in the social marketplace.  They are demanding for guys to chase them in order to get their fragile feminine egos stroked.  Media has responded to this demand by barraging society with romantic fluff seen in chick flicks and romance novels.

Unfortunately, increasingly more and more guys are falling into the trap.  Ironically, by giving what women say they want, a guy will become less attractive to women.  By being a spineless Nice Guy, he's surrendered his alphaness and straying from what made men attractive back in 50,000 BC.  Look around us.  We all know countless nice guys being stepped on, ignored and friendzoned.  At the same time, the players and assholes are the ones landing dates and getting laid.  This is not surprising since the traits of players and assholes are essentially the same traits of alpha males of yesteryears. 

Therefore, guys fail in courtship because they're trying to appeal to what women say they want, not what women truly and instinctively want.  It's a paradox to those who don't see the world through scientific lens, but crystal clear to those who do. 

In my next blog, I'll write very briefly what the optimum courtship strategy should be.