Certain unknowable intentions

Lately, I find myself thinking about pickups at the weirdest moments.  Sometimes on the toilet.  Sometimes on the freeway. 

This time, I thought about it while reading news of eight people murdered halfway around the world.  If you follow Asian news, you might know I'm referring to last week's killing of a busload of Hong Kong tourists in the Philippines. 

The shooting made me think of the Philippines, a country I've visited on two occasions.  Anyone who has been there knows that the female natives are very friendly to foreigners.  They are so easy to pickup, it's not even funny.  And if you have some game and patience, you can get laid almost as easily too. 

You might think then that the Philippines is a PUA's paradise.  It's not.  I'll tell you why...

Superficially, these women are indeed very friendly.  But get to know them a little deeper and their primordial claws come out.  Two-thirds of the time, after you’ve befriended them, they would shamelessly ask for money in one form or another.  They would ask for it blatantly, ask to borrow it, ask for gifts, or ask for you to take them on dinners and outings. 

It's just a matter of time before most of them do.  And why not?  They assume you, the foreigner, is loaded, horny, and ready to rescue some third-world damsel in distress.

I can't fault them.  They live in a destitute, decaying country screwed up in almost every possible way.  But there's also something shoddy about their domestic culture, one that encourages people, even middle class people, to beg for money.  Everybody does it and they see no shame in it.

So therein lies the dilemma for PUAs there.  When girls give you massive IOIs, are they interested in you or your wallet?  When she displays that “doggy dog bowl look”, is she for real or just trying to monetarize your affections?  Without knowing, it's virtually impossible to determine what you're doing right or wrong.  The micro-calibration process so central to the Mystery Method cannot be performed with accuracy.

If getting laid is your primary objective, of course you don't care what she’s after.  But I have a feeling most people study the Mystery Method to pursue something a little more genuine.

Thinking about pickups in the Philippines, I've gained more appreciation for human relationships at home.  Here, a girl who offers friendship is probably motivated by affection, not financial self-interest.  I don't need to look over my shoulders to check whether her hands are in my wallet.  Even if they’re harder to get in bed, people who are genuine are definitely more worth having. 

Gay guys and the proper PUA technique

Last night, I had an epiphany that I need to share with you.

I was having dinner at a restaurant where our waiter was clearly gay.  I mean, flamboyant gay.  Likeable, outspoken, funny -- the typical flamboyant gay dude.  You know what I mean.  If you don't, click here and watch this YouTube video.

If you've been around gay people in a party setting, you'd notice girls love hanging out with flamboyant gay guys. 

That's when it hit me. . . 

The reason girls love talking to them is because these guys behave almost EXACTLY like how PUAs approach women under the Mystery Method! 

From my latest series, I said girls are more likely talk to a male stranger if he displays these qualities:

- Sociable
- Funny
- Has attitude
- Not invested in the conversation
- Speaks openly
- Has NO AGENDA
- Talks "girl-friendly" topics

THESE ARE THE EXACT TRAITS OF FLAMBOYANT GAY GUYS!  Gay guys clearly have no agenda when talking to girls.  He doesn't impress them.  Rather, he speaks openly and flamboyantly on "girl-friendly" topics with that "fuck it" attitude. 

I know what some of you are thinking.  How can a girl be attracted to you if you act gay?

But remember, when first approaching a set, it has NOTHING to do with attraction.  You need to first get a conversation going.  If your set fails to grant you an audience, you’re done.  It's only once the conversation catches fire (the "hook point") is when you start to build romance. 

To moral of the story is, to get to the hook point, you need traits of flamboyant gay guys (minus the lisp, hand gestures and whiny tone).  There's something to learn from gay guys! 

Stickied: PROJECT MAYHEM OPEN FOR SIGNUPS!!

Please email me immediately at jsbachery@gmail.com if you wish to join.  We are a group of PUA students learning the art of the cold approach.

Here's how Project Mayhem generally works...

1. Every Monday, members decide on a weekly objective for himself

2. Each member attempts the objective in-field by approaching at least 5 sets

3. Each member files a report by next Monday.

4. Repeat for next week!  Each member decides for himself whether to repeat the objective or advance to something harder.  While you can go at your own pace, over time, you must demonstrate progress.

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Project Mayhem Charter

The purpose of Project Mayhem is to motivate members to learn and practise PUA arts as taught by Mystery and Neil Strauss.

1. There are no teacher-student roles.  Everybody will be both.

2. Members agree on the basic tenets of the Mystery Method.

3. Everyone must complete at least five approaches each week or make a good faith attempt.

4. Each member determines his own weekly objectives.  While members can go at their own pace, they must demonstrate progress over time.

5. Members agree to submit a report from the weekly assignment in a timely and truthful manner.  Members are allowed to skip one week of filing every month as a "vacation".

6. Members are expected to remain positive, be helpful, and have a sense of humor!

7. Members understand not everyone will follow the identical technique and to respect each other's differences.

8. Members agree to be bounded by secrecy.  They are free to talk about their own experiences with outsiders.  But it is forbidden to identify someone else in the Project or share someone else's experiences with outsiders.

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Admins

Initially, the admins of Project Mayhem are myself and two original members and creators of the lair. One is Cinder_Str (an AFer) and another guy (a non-AFer).

Admins are primarily to serve secretarial roles only. That is, to tally the reports to make sure people are attempting them. Admins are not PUA instructors and are not meant to be "bossy". They have to complete weekly assignments like everyone else. I think you'll find the atmosphere to be light, fun and uplifting.

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This is what you'll need for Project Mayhem

- Facebook account (the lair is on Facebook). If you're obsessed with privacy like me, you should create a dummy account.

- Get clothing and accessories mentioned on Chapter 4 of my latest AF series.

- Start scouting "hot spots" where girls hang out in your area

- Prepare to devote up to one hour a week in-field. If you're in school, you can normally do it in conjunction with your normal daily routine (being in class, on campus, at the library, at work, etc).

- Read PUA writings by Mystery and Neil Strauss. If you don't want to buy their books, you should read my latest series. It contains everything you need for the first 6-8 weeks of the Project.

- Start creating a cheatsheet (please read Chapter 12 of my latest series)