Bach Recital: Wanting him in control

(An ongoing series "15 Chapters - Fantastic First Impressions in the Cold Approach")

I've posted controversial writings on AF before, but this one will take the cake.  Sensitive people should skip this post. 

At any bookstore, you'd see tons of trashy romance novels with a shirtless beefy man on the cover.  Most stories involve situations where a man overpowers a women, tears off her clothes, restrains her and makes passionate love while she offers token resistance before submitting willfully.  The guy is always a "take control" kinda guy, never some nice sensitive metrosexual dude.

Some of you think only redneck women read these novels right? Wrong.  55% of all paperbacks sold in North America are romance novels.  The average reader has a higher educational attainment than the general population.  Google the statistics yourself. 

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This article on Psychology Today's website discusses the results of a university survey on female sexual fantasies.  According to the article, 31-57% of women have fantasized about being "overpowered" by a man (also known as "rape fantasies").  Researchers think the percentage is higher since most women will not admit to having them.  Bear in mind, this website is produced by academic professionals, not a pack of perverted adolescents. 

I want to make it clear that I am NOT advocating physical assault.  Just because you fantasize about jumping off a building does not mean you want someone to push you off.  Fantasies are different from reality because they're always safe.  When a woman is overpowered in reality, she runs the risk of injury, death and pregnancy.  Nobody should "want it" or "deserve it" even if she has fantasized about it. 

I'm posting this to accompany my latest chapter on masculinity and high valueness.  The moral of the story is, most girls harbor a primordial and instinctual desire for men to "take control".  Don't be the "nice guy" who thinks he needs to respect her space.  It's OK to go for a kiss or put your arms around her.  Chances are good she has dreampt about a guy doing it.  All this feminist talk about wanting equality in romance is pure garbage.  She claims to want equality when people are around to listen.  But when she's alone in her fantasies, the scene looks entirely different.