The illogical game

Holy crap!  I just visited AF.net for the first time in weeks and noticed it has a crappy new format, one that takes my browser longer to load.  What's wrong with the old format?!

I've been distracted lately because I'm buying a home.  Fortunately, the distraction is coming to an end.  I'm really looking forward to devoting to this courtship topic once more and getting life back to normal. 

You know, I've come to realize that home-buying and courtship are very similar activities.  You'd imagine buying a house should be simple -- a seller would sell to the highest bidder.  Right?  Wrong.  There is so much crap involved.  It's like assuming that a girl would choose the guy who's the best-looking and nicest.  Nope, it's not that simple either. 

Both activities aren't simple because there's a "game" involved.  Courtship is complex because what a female claims to want isn't what her instincts want.  Furthermore, females are indirect, ego-driven and mostly live in her little fantasy world.  Real estate is also complex because there are tons of intermediaries involved (agents, banks, loan brokers, inspectors, etc) all jossling for their cut from the transaction. 

Because of the game, in the end, the girl doesn't end up with the "best" guy just like, in the end, the home seller doesn't sell to the highest bidder.  On the surface, there's nothing logical about it.  Dig a little deeper, and with a bit of sophistication, you'd see why the game exists.

So in both types of activities, the best we can hope for is to understand the game, play it well, and let the chips fall where they may.  It's silly to complain about the illogical game, one that we cannot control, change or destroy.  Girls will forever whine about "the game" because few of them can use logic to rise above their emotions.