CNN article on "Nice Guys" being last

Check out this interesting article on CNN titled Men ditch "nice guy" style, get more dates.

In my favorite part of the article, it mentioned how PUA guru Neil Strauss was once a hopeless "Nice Guy" who got stepped on:

"[Neil] was friends with a girl he liked.  He was painting her walls one time when she left to go on a date with another guy."

How many of you have done something similar?

Myth #10 - Being asked on a date means he really likes me

(An ongoing series "Ten Common Myths Girls Believe about Courtship")

This myth is uniquely Asian because non-Asians don't make a big fuss over dating. 

There is a reason why this is an Asian myth.  Most Asian parents are paranoid about young romances because they fear losing control of their children.  So they make up some bogus stuff about how it interferes with school.  The truth is, it doesn’t.  In fact, university students who are in romances usually get BETTER grades than those who are not.

In contrast, non-Asian parents see dating and courtship as something normal and even good.  In fact, your typical white parents will think you're some closet lesbian if you don't.  As such, non-Asians have more social experiences because they aren't so hung up over the D word. 

Since Asian parents forbid or discourage dating, it becomes a big deal to their children.  Not only that, but if people experience something less, it becomes a bigger deal than it really is.  It's like sex.  Those who don't (or rarely) have sex see it as something majorly important. 

What does this mean to you?  If a guy asks you for coffee or takes a friendly initiative, view it only as an OPPORTUNITY and nothing else.  It doesn't mean you’re the only one.  It doesn't mean he'll propose.  It only means a door has been unlocked.  Like all opportunities, it's up to you to turn the knob and prove your worth.  If you don't take a counter-initiative, the door will relock itself -- and you'll have no one to blame but yourself. 

The more you think courtship and dating is a big deal, the less likely you'll turn the knob.  Not only will this reduce your chances of landing a boyfriend, but if you date less, you will be less competant for the future in interacting with the opposite sex in a romantic context.  As I said in the previous article, guys and girls communicate and act very differently and it takes a long time to get good at relating.

You should also assume a guy who makes overtures to you also flirts and dates many other girls too, especially if he's high value.  So don't run to the forum asking "OMG, does he LYYYYKE ME"? Because the answer is probably "he's taking applications".  No, he's not being a player.  And no, he's not untrustworthy.  Trying out new clothes before buying is simply what people naturally do.